Discovering your child has experienced sexual abuse or harassment at school is a parent’s worst nightmare. The feelings of shock, anger and betrayal are overwhelming and knowing what to do can feel impossible. Sadly, these incidents are more common than many realize. Reports of student-on-student sexual harassment in U.S. schools have risen dramatically in recent years, and schools often struggle to address these situations adequately.
While no parent wants to contemplate this possibility, being informed and prepared is crucial. Knowing the steps to take if your child discloses abuse or harassment can help you protect your child, seek justice and begin the healing process.
First steps: Believe and protect
If your child discloses sexual abuse or harassment at school, the first and most important step is to believe them. Children rarely lie about these experiences, and your immediate support is vital. Listen calmly and without judgment, offering comfort and reassurance. Let your child know they did the right thing by telling you and that it’s not their fault.
Your next priority is to ensure your child’s safety. This may involve reporting the incident to the school and/or law enforcement. In Kansas City, Missouri, you are legally required to report suspected child abuse to the Missouri Department of Social Services, Children’s Division. In Kansas, you must report to the Kansas Department for Children and Families. Creating a safe environment for your child may also involve limiting their contact with the perpetrator and seeking professional help to address the emotional trauma.
Seeking help and resources
Dealing with the aftermath of sexual abuse or harassment is incredibly challenging. Fortunately, Kansas City has resources available to help you and your child. Organizations like the Metropolitan Organization to Counter Sexual Assault (MOCSA) in Missouri and the Sunflower House in Kansas offer crisis intervention, counseling and support groups for survivors of sexual violence and their families.
Consider seeking legal advice to understand your options and explore whether the school or district failed to protect your child. An attorney can help you understand your rights and advocate for your child’s best interests. Remember, healing takes time and utilizing available resources can provide crucial support during this difficult journey.
Facing the reality of sexual abuse or harassment involving your child is devastating. By responding with compassion, taking swift action to protect your child and seeking support from community resources and legal professionals, you can help your child begin to heal and move forward. While the road to recovery may be long, remember that you are not alone and help is available.